In a week, for the first time, I will be moving in with a romantic partner. I am feeling kind of... trepidatious. A nice little mix of nervous, anxious and curious. Of course, I decided it was a topic for the last girls' night I had. They had some tips -
1. Have separate baskets for our respective stuff. That way, one person can put the other person's things away and the other person will know where to look for it.
2. A shut door means you're Done. There will no longer be the option of going home when I'm mad. I am home. It's something I'm not sure how to handle, but my brilliant friend said in her household, when you are having a disagreement, and you're at the point where you can't take any more- you leave the room and shut the door. It gives just enough space where you can cool down, and collect your thoughts. My addition- the only reason either party should open the door is to apologize. We'll see how that goes. :)
3. Finally, there is the possibility of rules. Each person can write a rule, and the other person gets to write one of their own. Tit for tat. For example, I can't stand a messy toothpaste tube. My rule may be to wipe off the toothpaste when it gets messy. His corresponding rule may be that I can only have one pair of shoes out at a time. One rule for one rule. Then we can see what things are really important, and which are things we can let go.
I was and am very grateful for these co-habitant hints. Please tell me what tips you've learned over the years of living with another person (who you happen to love).
1. Have separate baskets for our respective stuff. That way, one person can put the other person's things away and the other person will know where to look for it.
3. Finally, there is the possibility of rules. Each person can write a rule, and the other person gets to write one of their own. Tit for tat. For example, I can't stand a messy toothpaste tube. My rule may be to wipe off the toothpaste when it gets messy. His corresponding rule may be that I can only have one pair of shoes out at a time. One rule for one rule. Then we can see what things are really important, and which are things we can let go.
I was and am very grateful for these co-habitant hints. Please tell me what tips you've learned over the years of living with another person (who you happen to love).
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